At some point in your life, something will happen that will turn your
world around and make you think. Only then will you realise that by
continually ignoring the thought process, you have walked into a
potentially damaging situation, not only with your eyes wide open but,
far worse, with a closed mind. Very few people escape this process, and
it can happen when we least expect it. At this point, many of you will
be telling yourselves that this could never happen to you. But please
If you become ill, what is the first thing you do? Do you take an
alternative remedy that you have in the home? Do you visit your doctor
and hope that he can shed some light on your problem? Perhaps you decide
to read a medical dictionary and make your own diagnosis, or seek advice
from a friend? Depending on the kind of ailment that you have one or all
of these remedies could be the correct action. But there is something
missing from the equation, something that is so obvious that you have
probably never given it a thought. Your lifestyle.
I am only addressing minor complaints in this chapter, because if you
can stop this process at the outset, many of the major medical problems
simply will not happen. However, I believe you can take a number of
steps towards better physical and mental health. Study the following
exercises carefully. They will help you change your life.
The first step in reclaiming your life is to arm yourself with
an exercise book and pen. Don't use a pencil, you may be tempted to rub
something out. When you have acquired these items, begin the analytical
process by underlining the heading, which will be MATERIALISM.
List everything you have bought in the past twelve months, apart from
the usual day-to-day goods that we all have to buy, on the left-hand
side of the page. If you wish to take your time and be specific, this
may take several days. When you have finished, return to the top of the
page and, on the right-hand side, write against each item how many hours
you or your partner have had to work to acquire it.
When you have finished both lists, start a new page and write down
the heading LOST TIME, LOST LIFE and underline it. Then
put down everything you would have liked to have done, either with your
partner or with friends and family, if you had not been working so hard
for your acquisitions.
At this point I will remind you why I asked you not to use a pencil.
This is because pencil can be erased, and the words you may wish to
erase could, if studied carefully, be the turning point in your life.
Look at them and ask yourself how and why they have appeared on the
page. Why do you want to erase them? Do they disturb you? If so,
then you must look at why they are creating a disturbance. After all,
the words are only there because you put them there. They could be the
something that you have been deliberately ignoring because you could not
face up to the consequences, or they could be meaningless at present but
a warning sign for the future. They may even be positive words that
foretell a happy, healthy future. Whatever they are, ignore them at your
peril, because they are a form of clairvoyance, of 'clear sight'.
Now turn to a new page, write down the heading AILMENTS,
and underline it. Then list all the ailments you have suffered during
the past twelve months. Ask your family and friends how they would sum
up your general health during those months. It is quite normal for us to
try to block out the unpleasant things in our lives, especially
illnesses, and others may help give you a clearer picture.
Study all the exercises over a period of a week or more. Do not rush
this stage. Take your time. Only when you have made an honest assessment
of everything you have written down can you turn a new page.
On your new page draw several horizontal lines across the paper,
leaving at least two inches below each line. It is important to note
that what you put underneath these lines will affect your future life.
Write STRESS on the top line - it represents how much stress and
ill health you are prepared to suffer for the type of lifestyle you have
at the moment. Ask yourself whether you can honestly sustain it, knowing
the full facts, because if you cannot, you know that your immune system
and your mental health will suffer. Put down YES or NO on
the line. If the answer is YES, you will know that you have given
a lot of thought to the answer and that you are in control of your
life. However, it would still be in your best interest to read on, to
find out what your future may hold.
If the answer is NO, then decide which material possessions
you could do without so that you can enjoy more stress-free hours with
your family and friends. Write them down in the space below the line.
Go down to the second line and decide what INITIATIVE you are
going to take so that you will have more control over your life. For
example, if you have suffered more colds, coughs, and flu than those
around you, you will realise that your immune system needs a boost. Go
to your local health store and look at the numerous books that they have
on sale. Choose one and read it. When you have done this, write the
title of the book underneath the second line. I guarantee that you will
be determined to find out as much as you can about preventative medicine
and that you will end up adding more titles to your paper
You may of course suffer from a number of allergies, in which case
the above advice will be the same. Remember, allergies are also a sign
of a weakened immune system, and any kind of stress will set them off.
Acquire as much knowledge as possible about MIND ENERGY, for this
will be the heading on the third line. Read how, with positive thought,
you can prevent the build-up of blockages in the energy system which,
above all, protects our minds and physical bodies from rapid
If you have been able to go through all the steps and make decisions
that will change your life for the better, then you are on the road to
reclaiming your life.
If you wrote YES on the top line at the beginning of the fifth
step, be sure to re-evaluate your life from time to time. It could be
that this practice may help prevent unexpected ill health or disasters
in the future.
Those of you who want to live a more simple life should carry on with
the process, moving further down the page as and when you have achieved
the knowledge and self confidence to do so. You could use the following
headings to explore yourself.
Emotions are difficult to control. But if you want a healthy life you
must put the brake on extreme reactions. If you are faced with this
problem in others, you must simply keep out of their way. There is no
greater enemy to our mental and physical health than the negative forces
that are released when the atmosphere is charged in this way.
Do not blame others when your expectations of them fail. The only
true expectations you can have are those you have for yourself. If they
fail, then you can only blame yourself and try to do better next time.
There is no way that you can always succeed, but it is extremely
rewarding when you do.
Do not lie down
Throughout your life you will have to take many knocks. When this
happens, get up. If you are knocked down again, get up again. Others
will weary of the game before you do, and it will show them how much
resilience you have when you believe in yourself.
However, if it becomes obvious that someone is out to destroy you,
you may have to leave a job, a partnership, or a new project. Whatever it
is, leave the scene with dignity and put your faith in Universal Law. No
matter how long it takes, the perpetrator will eventually receive their
punishment from this source - one cannot make deals with Universal Law.
Do not be taken in by other people's lifestyles. They many have
bigger house, servants, better paid jobs, expensive cars and so on, but
these do not necessarily make for a happy life. If you are a decent,
caring individual you will probably have more love in your life, even if
you live in a bedsit. Of course there are decent people living in those
big houses but, on the whole, one cannot have fame and money without
having to give up one's privacy. There is always a price that has to be
Do not let jealousy mar your life. Use your intuition when meeting
someone for the first time. If you have a distinctly uneasy feeling,
then no matter what they have got, or where they live, you should not
have them as a friend. Trust your own judgment.
We are all unique, and we all work best at different levels.
Somewhere in this chart you will find your level for a stress-free life.
Unfortunately we all have failings, so you should re-evaluate your life
every six months or so. In the meantime, the following proverbs and
calming thoughts might help you deal with everyday problems.
- A word spoken is past recalling.
- All that glitters is not gold.
- All things come to those who wait.
- Nature abhors a vacuum.
- Love begets love.
- If a first you don't succeed, try, try, and try again.
- Hasten slowly.
- More haste less speed.
- The unexpected always happens.
- There are two sides to every question.
- To err is human, to forgive is divine.
- Cut your coat according to your cloth.
- You must take the fat with the lean.
- You never know what you can do until you try.
- Zeal without knowledge is fire without light.
- Wise men learn by other's mistakes; fools by their own.
- Civility costs nothing.
- Comparisons are odious.
- Barking dogs seldom bite.
- As you make your bed, so must you lie on it.
- A penny saved is a penny gained.
- A man is known by the company he keeps.
- A fool and his money are soon parted.
- Beggars can't be choosers.
- Better a devil you know that a devil you don't know.
- Forgive and forget.
- No gains without pains.
- In the country of the blind the one-eyed man is king.
- It takes two to quarrel.
- History repeats itself.
- Hypocrisy is the homage that vice pays virtue.
- Ill-gotten gains never prosper.
- Manners make the man.
- Moderation in all things.
- Little strokes fell great oaks.
- Lend your money and lose a friend.
- Let them laugh that win.
- No man is wise at all times.
- The wish is father to the thought.
- Rats desert a sinking ship.
- One swallow does not make a summer.
- Preventions is better than cure.
- Practise what you preach.
- Respect a man, he will do the more.
- Remove an old tree, and it will wither to death.
- Use pastime, so as not to lose time.
- When one door shuts, another opens.
- Give love wherever it is needed.
- Look at the earth during the day, and the sky at night. Then you
will always have something beautiful to behold.
- With a touch of class you will not only look good, you will feel
- Be kind to yourself.
- Don't beat yourself, or allow others to do so. You are worth more.
- There is a message in every book.
- Those who think they know it all know very little.
- Always leave the doors of your mind open.
- Love comes in many guises.
- Don't prepare yourself for the worst. Expect the best.
- A smile can brighten the darkest room.
- Money cannot give you happiness, You have to find that for
- Don't try to win every argument. And you will live longer.
- Meditate at least twice a week, It will save your sanity.
Add something to this list every day and analyse it. Eventually you
will have a clear picture of what you really want to do with your life.